FOX47 NEWS - A Grim Milestone
It's nearly been three years since Mark Maida died while serving in Iraq.
At his parents home their is a whole room dedicated to the fallen soldier.
Pictures, plaques and even mark's drivers license.
There isn't a day that goes by that they don't think of him.
I get up at 4am because that's when he use to call. I still think about him and can't go back to sleep, says Mark Maida's father Ray.
There aren't any pictures of Shane O'Donnell at his brothers apartment.
Eric O'Donnell says he relies on memories and this tattoo on his forearm to remember Shane.
I thought it was something I could remember him by, I mean not that I would ever forget him, but more like a badge of honor, O'Donnell says.
Ray Maida's other son Mark also served in Iraq.
He remembers a conversation with his sons about their views on the war during their deployment
Both didn't feel like we belonged in Iraq, Maida says.
Eric O'Donnell says his views on the war are up in the air, but after reaching the grim milestone of 4,000 dead- he says one thing is clear.
I think it's been obvious now that the people making the decisions can't handle that responsibility anymore, O'Donnell says.
Many have argued that pulling the troops out of Iraq now would mean that those who were killed died in vain.
But the Maida's say keeping them their will mean more heart ache for more families.
I personally feel I cant completely come to peace with Mark's death until all the soldiers are home, says Diane Maida.
86 Wisconsin Soldiers have died serving in Iraq.